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Racism is just a tool of oppression, and in THAT way racism is human nature. Racism is taught for the purpose of oppression, which is human nature. |
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and on two side notes: there was a time in another thread when you brought up the fact that the color of you skin or skin tone has nothing to do with you as a person. This is very true, it doesnt. You went on this whole speech of saying "does the color of my skin make make me any less of a mother" and so on and so forth. Once again no it does not. But in this same thread you called a women ugly, now by your standards, What made that women any less of a mother or a person. Nothing. You are a pretty big hypocrite. And on the other side not: since you did say in another thread that you thought it was racist to not be attracted to a certain skin tone, I want to ask you this: Would you label people who are not attraced to the same sex or are not bisexual as sexist? So if I were to say I am not attracted to the same sex as me, would you then label me as sexist? This seems to follow your same pattern of thinking. |
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You're only ignoring him because the points he's making completely invalidate your own. You're neglecting his comments because you can't address the holes in your ideas. As I will demonstrate: Quote:
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Survival is human nature, but I think it is harder to argue that oppression is. As in the animal world, I think humans found early on that community, the opposite of oppression, is a better path to survival than oppression. Wolves that hunt in packs learned their survival rate was higher if they worked together rather then as individuals. The same is true in everything from fish to monkeys to prehistoric man.
Of course oppression happens, and racism can be a big part of it, but I don't think it is instinctual. |
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I ignored him outright until someone... burkheartdesu or something?... made a comment about me ignoring him, and THAT is when I acknowledged MMM's posts on this thread. THAT is when I acknowledged that I don't like him. NOW, when you've addressed me on the issue, is when I've acknowledged him. Other than that, I'm pretty sure that he's had no need to "clarify his position" based on anything I've said to him - because I HAVEN'T said anything to him. So I'm actually a little confused by what you've said. |
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I mean, really... Are you going to say that you don't have ANY thoughts on the issue? And what about the questions I posed to you earlier? If you don't find them interesting, then that's fine - but I'm just curious... did you see the questions? |
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That's terribly pretentious. |
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Well, if I offended you, I'm sorry. |
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Mercedes Can you answer to my post, This happened last time I posted the same questions in another topic. And I got no answer there, and again this time I get no answer.
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About that woman... SHE LOOKED LIKE A BLOODY ZOMBIE. I'm sorry, but she was pretty damned ugly. I didn't say that she's any less of a mother. I didn't say that I think being ugly means a woman won't be a good mother. I just said that she was ugly. I'm sorry if you think I'm being hypocritical, but I never claimed that I don't have my own standards of beauty. I most certainly do. All I'm claiming is that there's a reason why I find certain people attractive and others unattractive. It's not "just because." My reason for why I think that woman is ugly? Her face is really sunken, making me think that she's diseased or that she doesn't eat very well. I'm attracted to people who are healthy, and who have the means to feed themselves. As for sexism... well, yes - I actually do feel that it's sexist. There are many books about sexism being attached to heterosexuality, and is definitely a really interesting discussion if you want to get into it (without getting into an argument, because I'm not in the mood for another one of those.) I have to say, though, that I'm really interested in sexuality and gender, and I WILL go on forever about it... So if you want me to elaborate, I'd have to come back and talk about it later because I'm a little drained right now. |
cool thanks
So just to be clear, Any one who is not Bi sexual is then sexist? |
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2. You are a American citizen. The US Territories are far different from the mainland in thinking and culture. Look at Puerto Rico for example. 3. Here you claim you are gay, yet in another post you claim you are bisexual. There is a big difference. Make up your mind. You are trying to present your arguments from 2 completely different viewpoints. 4.I am not saying that women should be oppressed. Just by their attempting to be equal, they have overshot this goal and think that they can only be equal is by castrating men. Men have to question their role in marriage now and that is why marriages are failing. My father doesn't oppress my mom, but his role is traditionally defined and he feels like he runs the family. In truth, my mother has feminine ways to manipulate him if need be without taking his manhood away. Does this answer your questions? |
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1. You suggested earlier that women now have too much power in relationships, throwing true relationships out of whack. Do you feel that, if a man were fighting for a 50-50 relationship, the relationship would fall apart? Do you think, then, that a man should submit to the woman so that the relationship can then and only then achieve true equality? 2. Yes, I am an American citizen. (Though I'm a second-class American citizen. I don't have the same rights as those born on the mainland. Even the idea of being US "territory" makes me second-class.) I'm also West Indian. West Indian is my ethnicity. Believe it or not, though, I understand a LOT about American culture. America has influenced the USVI greatly. I've also spent the last two years living in New York. 3. Today, vocabulary like gay, lesbian, queer, and bisexual are interchangeable because more and more people are starting to realize that sexuality is fluid. One day, I might only be attracted to women. The next, I might only be attracted to men. I'm sorry if I confused you. 4. What do you believe is the man's role in marriage? Also, what happens if two men get married, or if two women get married? What will their roles be then? |
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and chances are if they're attracted to men too, they're bi-sexual. I wasn't saying anything about mainstream-ness. I'm sorry for OT. back to the topic? |
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If women were traditionally the head of the family then yes the man should be submissive. (This isn't the case though) 2. I am an American citizen, but I would never think I really understood somewhere I wasn't raised especially if the culture is different like the Virgin Islands. 3. The terms are not interchangable. I suggest not labeling yourself until you figure out who you are(Bi sexual might be closest for you). 4. The traditional role of men is the head of the family. Since this role is changing, this is what is leading to the break down of the institution of marriage. If same sex couple marry, one always assumes the dominate role. Gay couples seem to have less problems in their relationship because this is a given. Two dominates would never work, just as two submissives wouldn't. I predict that marriage will cease to exsist in a century due to this confusion of roles caused by "Equal Rights". |
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2. Have you lived in the Virgin Islands? Do you know about the culture of the USVI? How is the USVI culture so drastically different from US culture that you think I can't understand US culture? 3. Have you studied modern-day sexuality? Do you regularly have discourses on sexuality? Do you know what sexual fluidity is? 4. Same as #1, I suppose: how do you propose a relationship be equal if you feel that someone MUST assume the "dominant" role? |
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2.No, but Hawaii is different and it's a state. Are you claiming there is no difference? 3.Yes, I am a counselor. 4.Someone needs to be the last word. For someone with all the answers you sure have a lot of questions. |
How did we get here from "I prefer how Asian women because of how they treat me"?
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Just because you start a post with that sentence doesn't mean you can get away with the rest of what you say. I mean seriously.. you paint the typical marriage between two Westerners as an inherently antagonistic power struggle and blame the failure of modern Western women for accepting their feminine role for it. I'm sorry but that's just bullsh*t. Even if the former were true (which I don't believe it is for a second), why would the latter be the fault of the woman? It could just as easily be presumed that the failure of the man to relinquish outdated traditions is to blame. You haven't given us an insight into anything except your way of thinking. Please stop speaking for all Westerners (Americans????) and just speak for yourself. |
Um...ok I'll try to answer your questions as well as I'm able. That isn't saying much.
1. I think maybe the idea of "50- 50" is stressed too much. Relationships can be fluid or ridgid, it probably depends in part on the personalities of the individuals within the relationship. As to the idea of head of house..I'm the head of my house cause I'm alone. My mom is the head of hers, despite what dad likes to think. I suppose much of it would depend on the cultural influences of the people involved. 2. I never been anywhere on any island. I think these are off Africa? Thats about as far as I can go on that question. 3. I'm ex army...wich prolly means I'm a dim witted brute that can barely walk up right. 4. That would orginate from cultural and religious ideals. For those who were raised with that as thier base role model for happiness, they would in fact think of such a relationship as equal. I don't think I can answer this question very well, I'm sorry. Scientific method combined with human emotion can get complicated. |
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Let's not have another fight start here. Ronin, he never said he spoke for anyone but himself. It's not worth getting banned again, is it?
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For mercedesjin
My opinion comes from observations and feedback from clients, friends, people I've talked to, articles, etc.
Here is just one of many I've read: Why I, as an ardent anti-feminist, feel sorry for women I do believe in equality, but feel that women overcompensate and this is the problem. I do feel that most men caused this need by not allowing women easy access to this right. Women still get less pay for the same job, this is unfair. Men are taught to be protector, provider, and head of the family. We feel threatened when our role is in question. While women are being taught at a young age to be independent and equal, men are still being taught that they need to still act in their traditional roles. This is where the problems lie. This is my last say on this topic. |
Men only like to believe we are the "head of the household." -- in all actuality Women have a keen ability to manage finances, tend to children and make a home, well, a HOME.
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You want to know my opinion? You are unsuccessful with Western women and percieve Asian women to be more submissive and therefore are attracted to them. It's as simple as that. You see it all the time with Western guys who have fetishes for Asian women. |
Tread carefully, Ronin.
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I think you are unsuccessful with all women so you take your aggravation out here. Try men, maybe they'll like you (probably not). Oh, and it's perceive, I before e except after c, King Genius. |
Both of you stop. Now.
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