in love with a taken japanese girl..

[ZedKnightly]

Originally Posted by NanteNa

Just make sure you don't seem to desperate.
Guys that cannot take no for an answer are freakin' annoying.

lol.. ill stop the moment she says no to my face.. that would be my probable reaction.


thanks for the advices..
hehe. me, act too desperate..? hmm.. how bout..

"moshi yokereba, issho ni shukuji ni ikimasenka? boku ga ogotte ageru yo!"

if its alright, lets go out to eat..? ill treat you..

wonder how that would sound..

i am thinking its too straightforward and obvious though.
as i need to pull a "coworker" act.. which i dont know how i can keep that act up while at the same time gunning for her.. sigh

[SamuraiinUSA]

Dude I'm the same way and was in a simmilar situation a while ago what you need to do is practise in the mirror and be sure that you dont seem nervous.

[cridgit001]

Just don't let anyone walk in on you while your doing that.

[Saffron]

Whatever you decide just be careful.

[tocrayzay]

just ask her "hey you want to go out to drinks after work?" the worst that could happen is you get a no. that question is pretty general, she shouldn't get the wrong idea like that since you aren't directly asking her out on a date

[MMM]

Originally Posted by ZedKnightly

lol.. ill stop the moment she says no to my face.. that would be my probable reaction.


thanks for the advices..
hehe. me, act too desperate..? hmm.. how bout..

"moshi yokereba, issho ni shukuji ni ikimasenka? boku ga ogotte ageru yo!"

if its alright, lets go out to eat..? ill treat you..

wonder how that would sound..

i am thinking its too straightforward and obvious though.
as i need to pull a "coworker" act.. which i dont know how i can keep that act up while at the same time gunning for her.. sigh

Drop that boku ga ogotte ageru yo part, as if you are asking her out, you better plan on paying. That line makes it sound like you are her step-dad or something. And it is shokuji.

[Aniki]

After reading all that, I'm surprised that everyone is encouraging the guy.
In my opinion if you're in really loved with her, that doesn't give you the right to hit on her.
You think the best way is to tell her what you feel. And what if she says she doesn't feel the same for you, then what? Do you really think everything will go back the way it was, that you two will just be office-mates, friends?
Instead of dreaming all the time you should snap out of it and start thinking with your head. You say that she belongs to another, but don't know if she loves him. Don't rush, try to find out more about her relationship, does she really love him or maybe she's with him because she doesn't want to be alone. If that's the reason, then and only then you should make your move.

[NanteNa]

Saffron@ lol. Are you encouraging him to take advantage of another girl just to get over this one? wth?

Aniki@ THANKYOU! I second that. Finally someone put it into the words I couldn't find.

Worst case scenario could bite your ass, btw. if she tells her guy about you. What'd u do if some day he stands in your doorway asking what the hell you're doing asking his girl out?
And what makes you think she's not happy anyway? Some girls ARE independent you know. They don't need another half to keep going. Jeez.

[Saffron]

No, I'm not saying he should take adavantage of another girl. Bascially he needs to find a single girl that can make him happy.

Zed you might be feeling lonely so you have become attached to her. I think you should do what you feel is right, just be careful you do not get hurt.

[MMM]

Originally Posted by Aniki

After reading all that, I'm surprised that everyone is encouraging the guy.
In my opinion if you're in really loved with her, that doesn't give you the right to hit on her.
You think the best way is to tell her what you feel. And what if she says she doesn't feel the same for you, then what? Do you really think everything will go back the way it was, that you two will just be office-mates, friends?
Instead of dreaming all the time you should snap out of it and start thinking with your head. You say that she belongs to another, but don't know if she loves him. Don't rush, try to find out more about her relationship, does she really love him or maybe she's with him because she doesn't want to be alone. If that's the reason, then and only then you should make your move.

Telling her how he feels would be a terrible idea. Japanese people aren't so forthcoming with their feelings until well into a relationship. Just asking her out for dinner sends a VERY clear message. If she accepts, she is sending a VERY clear message. If she declines, she is also sending a VERY clear message. If she says "kondo" (next time) that is another VERY clear message. The important point is, if she says yes, you have an in, if she says no, or more than likely "kondo" or some other polite way of turning you down, then it should be dropped and never discussed again. Then it is time to explore outside of the office.