in love with a taken japanese girl..

[Maiken100]

Taking her shopping is a good move. The only thing i'd say is think carefully about what exactly type of present or gift you want her to help you with. The last thing you want is her saying "there's a shop here that do great gift and help you out too" lol

[superheel]

Originally Posted by ZedKnightly

oh ok. point taken.

by the way, ive had a great idea.

if you guys have been reading my posts, i said ill be coming back to philippipnes this saturday for a 2 week vacation.

What if instead of asking her out to dinner, i ask her out to help me pick/buy presents for girls...?

would that make me look like demanding, or a bother to her, who cant decide on my own..? or what?
comments would be appreciated, sooner the better cause i plan on asking her later! thanks!

Are you a Filipino? Caus i am. Hee Hee

[Keaton421]

Originally Posted by ZedKnightly

What if instead of asking her out to dinner, i ask her out to help me pick/buy presents for girls...?

would that make me look like demanding, or a bother to her, who cant decide on my own..? or what?
comments would be appreciated, sooner the better cause i plan on asking her later! thanks!

What do you mean "girls"? Like, your mom, sister, cousin or something? If so that's a really great idea, lots of girls would think that's sweet and few can resist the temptation of shopping.

[ZedKnightly]

Originally Posted by Keaton421

What do you mean "girls"? Like, your mom, sister, cousin or something? If so that's a really great idea, lots of girls would think that's sweet and few can resist the temptation of shopping.

you really think so..?
she wont think that

A) what a bother, gonna waste my time just cause he cant pick
B) he is obviously hitting on me
C) Cant you pick for yourself?

and if, and i stress a big IF,
she goes shopping with me, and i invite her to dinner afterwards.... she might say no cause of the time or smething right..? its gonna be late then, like 7;30 or so..

to answer the questions, yes, gifts for my mom, sisters, and cousins, friends.

And yeah, im a filipino.

[Keaton421]

Dude, just do it. I like the plan.

You won't know til you try - bottom line.

[ThirdSight]

Originally Posted by Keaton421

You won't know til you try - bottom line.

^This.

You're making a mountain out of a molehill. Do what's natural for you to ask this girl out, without making it obvious that you're trying to court her, being that she's already with someone. If you're both hitting it off, and she likes ya', make a move.

Don't psychoanalyze it. Don't think too hard about it. Don't make 12 different plans so that you got your bases covered. Just do it. Simple as that. You may feel a slight buzzing feeling in the middle of your gut when you do it, but you'll be happy you did once it's all said and done.

[xYinniex]

By the way, you taking her out? Thats cool and all, but have you thought about what are the consequences for her?

Say her current boyfriend finds out, you say he's abusive, what if he abuses her even more?

Think about her consequences, with the way you're thinking about taking her out and stuff, just don't go overboard, you might just harm her instead.

[ZedKnightly]

Originally Posted by xYinniex

By the way, you taking her out? Thats cool and all, but have you thought about what are the consequences for her?

Say her current boyfriend finds out, you say he's abusive, what if he abuses her even more?

Think about her consequences, with the way you're thinking about taking her out and stuff, just don't go overboard, you might just harm her instead.

hello.

i didnt say anything about her bf being abusive. the abusive one was my ex's ex.
i was using it as an example. sorry if i got confusing.
her current bf, wether kind or not, is currently unknown.

i do know for a fact that they are in a long term relationship (over a year or smething) but then they split up some time this year, then reconciled. thats the only thing ive heard.

[superheel]

Originally Posted by ZedKnightly

And yeah, im a filipino.

How come we filipinos are so obsessed with Japanese women? Well, it's not bad to have a friendly hang out, atleast make her think that it's just like a casual kind of thing and not something romantic. Instead of taking her out, just talk with her and aske her opinions, so by that, you could start a topic. You can do it pare!

[ZedKnightly]

this just struck me but, what if she asks me "why me, why not your filipina friends"?

cause they think i am close with them when i am not.

so is there a chance that she will ask why ask her and not someone else?

and what do i answer if ever?

man..